Monday, June 29, 2009

The Locologist will see you now

Hey Blog Fam!

Ya know what!? Sometimes I really amaze myself with the amount of knowledge I know about natural hair. I am talking about how my experience over the years has grown and has helped so many women gain freedom from relaxers or damaging hair styling techniques. For example I had a young lady call me and she really needed to have her hair retightened. However she told me she had a hard time finding someone who did interlocking. She said she called countless salons and everyone told her they did only palm rolling. Sorry ahead of time, I didn’t take pictures. I went into doctor mode and forgot all about yall, but I will get some next time to show the progression over time. Well when she arrived I took a look and I noticed excessive palm rolling had created thinning locks and locks that had totally broken off. I also noticed several locks that had accidentally been combined at the base. Her hair was also VERY dry but had excessive product buildup (specifically coconut oil). She really did give it the old college try but it didn’t work for her because she had limited knowledge and plus her time was consumed with family life like so many of us. What was my prescription? I promptly took her to the shampoo bowl. Yes I do have a portable shampoo bowl now and it’s so wonderful. I did a clarifying shampoo with extra hot water as close to the scalp as possible without burning her. I did an apple cider vinegar rinse to follow that up. I also washed her with a conditioning shampoo. I used some good old Cream of Nature (I only recommend this shampoo to mature lock wearers. Teenagers and babies beware of the unraveling). It works great on my hair. That is something that you will learn with me many of the products that I used I have used and rated them myself on either myself or my clients. Immediately after the conditioning shampoo I noticed her locks came to life. I followed that up with some conditioner and we proceeded to my chair. I lightly oiled her scalp along with some moisture spray. After I massaged that in I begin to go through and interlocking her locks. I kept with a simple 2 pattern on the mature locks but the brand new locks that I needed to start due to breakage I did a four. Her hair just spiraled and coiled all up and the mature locks just gracefully bowed down to my hands. It took me 2 hours from start to finish and when she was done her hair shined and glowed just like her pregnant glowing skin. I gave her some a take home prescription which should cost her about $16 which included a bottle of Cream of Nature shampoo and a bottle of Carol’s Daughter Tui Hair Oil (She loves fruity scents). We scheduled her next appointment 5 weeks out and thus the blossom of a beautiful client relationship.

I really have a hard time with people calling themselves Locticians when they really only know one form of locking hair and they wouldn’t know the best for what hair textures. That’s not a Loctician. That’s someone who simply knows palm rolling. Or like Sisterlock Consultants and Trainers they are trained in the technique of Sisterlocks. They took a class and they do hair according to what they were taught. Yes I have taken the Sisterlock training class. Yes I know how to do palm rolling, interlocking, comb coils, and backcombing. So what do I call myself? I really like the term my friend gave me when I was at Alumni Weekend. It was funny! They were asking hair questions and I was just a spitting that knowledge and my old roomie was like Trina the Locologist. I was like you know what I like that. That is what I call myself The Locologist. I will give you the right prescription for your hair. If you want healthy flowing locks while visiting with a great spirit then come on and sit in my chair. If you want highly manicured locks that look really synthetically shiny and styled in elaborate hair styles that my be harmful and detrimental for hair in the long run, then go and visit any neighborhood Loctician.

The Locologist is in and she will see you now.

Friday, June 19, 2009

I got a new Kitchen Gadget

Hey Blog Fam!

Today my new Vitamix 5200 arrived. YIPPEEEE!! I have been waiting 5 years to get one of these into my home. I received the notification on Wednesday that it would be coming and today Friday I got it. I promptly washed that bad boy down and put it to work. What did I make? I made a smoothie. I put a banana, 6 leaves of spinach, and 6 frozen strawberries. Man, let me tell yall that this smoothie was the smoothest thing I have witnessed in a while. I put just a pinch of splenda in the mix just to sweeten it a little and it was off the chain. Not to mention I just got in 2 servings of fruit and one veggie in one drink. Ya gotta love that. Check out the smoothie. Can you see any strawberry seeds? I can't and I sure didn't taste any. This is just the beginning of my healthy culinary journey with my Vitamix Blender and my Salad Master cookware. Stay tuned to more recipes.

Wednesday, June 17, 2009

It's not about you

*BIG SIGH* Hey Blog Fam!

I am in a bit of a funk today.

How depressing it is to watch someone you love go through depression, especially when it is a 4 year old little boy. *sigh* My little nephew is suffering due to absentee father syndrome. He is also suffering from mommy said I can't see Daddy Syndrome. My poor baby nephew! Oh how I love him so and to hear that he is hurting kills me inside. To be caught in the middle of some drama between two adults and not have a voice to express how you are hurting is a terrible feeling. For me it is extremely difficult to listen to my sister and bridle my tongue in the matter, because I know she will pull that old, "You don't have any children so you don't know" card out of her pocket. My nephew is really acting out now because his older brother is in Akron visiting his Great Grandmother on his father's side and my little nephew is stuck at home with my sister or either my mother. He asks to call his father all the time to only get the answering machine or voicemail every single time. A couple of days ago he totally acted out of character. He pressed the speed dial buttons on the phone and when the person didn't answer he began a profanity tyrant that would make a sailor blush. He put the words together with such venom that it crushed my sister's heart just to listen to it when her friends called to replay the messages. What did my sister do? She immediately blamed his father for not being around, which is common. But what she didn't do was look in the mirror and ask herself what she is doing wrong. I can list some things that she is doing that is confusing the heck out of my nephews such as her dating habits and introducing men to their lives that have no sustainability. But how do you help a person to recognize that they play a vital part in the problem when they don't want to hear the truth? You have to wait patiently until they are ready to receive your message even if it is killing you.
Today my mom called me to tell me that she and her boyfriend reached out to my nephew's father because my nephew was balled up in the room crying his eyes out. They called him at work and with relief he came to pick my Peanut up right after he got off of work. I was so thankful because my nephew did a total change in attitude. He ran and jumped off of the steps into his father's arms. He was just too excited to spend time with his father. While the father was leaving my mother's house he told my mother that he realizes that he is partially to blame for the way my nephew is acting out and he has to get it together. I respect that! But what I don't respect is my sister's responses to the visitation. My mother called my sister to tell her that her child is with his father and my sister gets irate and says HE DIDN'T TELL ME ANYTHING ABOUT THIS!! and she hangs up. Oh WOW! She then calls my mother back and says I don't want him coming there to pick my son up ever again is that clear. WTH!! Is she serious! I couldn't believe it when my mother told me. Here is a classic example of not knowing the person you have a child with. I saw the signs in this man when my sister was dating him before she got pregnant 6 months later. I told my sister and got a response so disappointing that I totally left it alone. My sister on the other hand should have known that this man had tendencies such as this, but nope she didn't take the time. This baby mama and daddy stuff has to end. We in the black community spend more time picking out our cars we drive than the spouses we chose to have children with. We jump in head first like YIPPEEE! But when the bubble bursts we are left with drama like this where a innocent 4 year is being affected by selfishness. How dare my sister or my nephew's father be so selfish as to not put aside pettiness to create a schedule for visitation that is beneficial to my nephew. They both need to take the I out of the equation here because my nephew is clearly suffering.
Until they can get it together I am forced to be a helpless aunt watching my Peanut suffer. *sigh* I wanted to cry today but all I can do is pray that God watches over him and guide his steps before the streets get a hold of him.