Friday, January 4, 2008

New Years Resolutions

Yeah, yeah….I know we all make them only to break them but I wanted to put some things out in the atmosphere about some promises that I made to myself and the most high prior to entering into 2008. First and foremost I will not stress over mess. What I mean by that is this…I am an analytical person who thinks all the damn time. Too much thinking leads to stress. Before I do something I am planning it out in my mind. If something negative happens to me I am thinking of ways I could have made that negative a positive or I am thinking of ways to prevent that from happening again. I also allow for other family members to dump their problems and other's problems on me so I think of ways to solve those too. One way I allow that to happen is my daily phone conversations with my sister. She is always telling me about her problems her friend's problems (people I don’t even know), and other family member’s problems. I know you are sitting there like damn when is your mind at rest. It is rarely at rest! I am reading a Joyce Meyer book and it is teaching me how to rest my mind and to eliminate outside interference. So my first resolution is to rest my mind and meditate every night. I also plan to cut back on the amount of idle conversation that I participate in. Yeah that means the daily phone conversations with my sister will be cut back drastically.

For stress relief I joined the gym down the street from my job and I started lunchtime workouts. Lately my boss has been micro managing me and that stresses me because I am trying to figure out why this dude is on my back. I think he is bored, but who knows. This makes the third RED faced manager (literally they are as red as beets) I have had in my career. It is something about the RED face men that I work with. I can’t determine the causes of another person’s inadequacies so I am going to work it out for an hour a day to both help me drop the pounds and de-stress. I also hired a personal trainer for a month to help me jump start my program. I don’t usually do the personal trainers but this trainer at the gym gave me a free session today that whipped my butt in 30 minutes. I definitely feel the burn right now as I type this. He gave me a great rate too so for 4 weeks I will see what type of results I see with my trainer's help. Every now and then you need a little help to jump start the results.

I also plan to watch what comes out of my mouth. I know this will be hard for me. I sometimes clown around with my friends or my husband when we are out and about. You know how you see that sista or that brotha who know they are wrong for wearing something or doing something and you give that look. Well I give that look and I like to discuss. Well I am going to have to stop that...I am taking it back to the basics. If you don't have nothing good to say don't say nothing at all.


Raspberry said...

Girl I so can identify with you about idle conversations. And you know how us ladies love to gab about any and everything. We would like to think of it as harmless chatter but I spent a lot of time mulling over someone else's negativity or having various "temptations" being transferred to my spirit thru the obsessions of a friend.

I cut back all that talking drastically and have much more time to be productive and have my mind clear, especially in the evenings.

The one thing you should be prepared for is you may have to redefine some of your relationships that had the phone at the center. It can feel at first like you're losing some of the friendship. Try having more focused convos (quantity or quantity) and showing love for your people in different ways that don't involve hours of phone time.

Raspberry said...

Oh I meant "quality over quantity" lol